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About Grin & Tonic by Alana Kirk

Bouncing into middle age armed with courage, ambition and a pair of tweezers (chin hairs for anyone over the age of 45 reading this) I am a writer with a mission: to redefine this midway point in my life when the last thing I want to do is hang up my high heels and become invisible. This is the end of the beginning, not the beginning of the end. A single mum to 3 fabulous girls, an author, and a fundraising consultant, both ends of my candle are on fire. As I enter this new stage of my life, I want to explore what it means for 'mid-aged' women today, who were promised they could have it all, ended up doing it all, and just do not identify with the traditional image of middle age.

A near perfect day

Yesterday was one of those days that I kept catching myself and watching as if I was above and looking down.  It was near perfect. It was the kind of day I remember from my childhood. The kind of day I … Continue reading

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Donegal Dreaming….. 2012

I’m back. Back in the glorious expanse of sky that makes me feel part of a huge beautiful world. All year I have waited for this. All year I have plodded and puffed, toiled and teared my way through the … Continue reading

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You can’t win

Today I had an encounter of the weird kind. Quite upsetting actually, although I’m forcing myself to laugh. Laugh in the face of nutters, right?There I am, bubbled in the babble of morning mayhem – striding up the road to … Continue reading

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The map of motherhood

Do you ever read something and it resonates so much with your moment in time and space that the words leap off the page and slap you in the face?  Or maybe it’s a lyric that rings in your ears long after the … Continue reading

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This old house

I’m spending so much time in my childhood house these days as I care for mum, that it has that old familiar feel. I’m not the random visitor of that last 20 years, leaving my breath on the window pane … Continue reading

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A gift

I’ve been given a special gift this week, made all the more precious because it was unexpected, a still frame in the blur of life. For months, I knew I was coming up to care for mum for a week … Continue reading

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Things I learned on holiday

Apologies for the blog hiatus – but frankly I was too busy eating chocolate and drinking wine over the Easter holidays to nurture my neglected baby. With the girls off school, I was busy nurturing them instead….. and my waisteline. … Continue reading

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We Survived

Dear Ruby, today, you are exactly 18 months old. This may not seem like a big milestone to some, but for us, it’s a miracle. This was the age there were times I never thought we’d make. This was the … Continue reading

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struck by a stroke

It’s been a funny week. Last year, every day was dominated by my mum’s stroke – either in the practical arrangements of travelling constantly to Belfast with a newborn and two children, or the emotional – the sheer pain and … Continue reading

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The gorgeous and the grotesque

Children. They are the ridiculous and the sublime, and everything in between…including the gorgeaous and grotesque. I’ll start with the latter – and I suggest you look away now if you are anyway sensitive. Yesterday I had the unglamorous task … Continue reading

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