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About Grin & Tonic by Alana Kirk

Bouncing into middle age armed with courage, ambition and a pair of tweezers (chin hairs for anyone over the age of 45 reading this) I am a writer with a mission: to redefine this midway point in my life when the last thing I want to do is hang up my high heels and become invisible. This is the end of the beginning, not the beginning of the end. A single mum to 3 fabulous girls, an author, and a fundraising consultant, both ends of my candle are on fire. As I enter this new stage of my life, I want to explore what it means for 'mid-aged' women today, who were promised they could have it all, ended up doing it all, and just do not identify with the traditional image of middle age.

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Yesterday I heard some tragic news. Another woman I know of, aged just 52, died, her life cut short. Obviously it has made me very sad, especially for her mum, who was one of my mum’s closest friends. But it … Continue reading

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Here’s what I’ve learned about being tested by ‘those’ people

When they are cowardly, be brave. When they suck your energy, breathe out their negativity. When they are unfair, be defiant. When they use you, use your boundaries. When they hurt you, love yourself more (and huddle with your tribe). … Continue reading

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A post-script to International Women’s Day

My Type A senior daughter is having a hard time with my recovery as a Former Perfectionist.  I pretend I don’t hear the tuts as her perfectly made up, whipped-into-shape-eyebrows scan the slightly grubby windows, the shaggy pile floor (not … Continue reading

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Today is the most important day of my life

I’m back! I feel I should be slinking back to this keyboard, pretending to yawn and stretch and say through bleary eyes “Oh what a lovely sleep that was… what time is it?” January 2019?!  My last post was nearly … Continue reading

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International Women’s Day…

I’m not ashamed to admit I’ve taken a few drugs in my time. (The good thing about getting to this young age is I’m not afraid to admit to anything anymore as my Give a Fuck battery is running as … Continue reading

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Times are a changin’ but they always were and always will.

  As another year draws to a close, I will not be making any resolutions. I ‘should’ give up Gin, Facebook and Dorritos but my resolution last year was to give up the word ‘should’ so I’m sticking to that. … Continue reading

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When girls should be girls.

Warning: this post contains expletives, feminism, anger and lipstick. I originally began to write this blogpost a week ago as a sashay through sexism to explore how my girls can be the people they want to be, regardless of their … Continue reading

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