my favourite photo

Thanks so much for Hot Cross Mum’s tag – to show and tell my favourite photo. In this digital age when we have more photos than blades of grass in our garden, this was no mean feat. But I’m a great believer in instinct and not over-thinking, so the first picture that popped into my head when faced with the challenge is the one I’m going for (as opposed to the 254 subsequent ones that i picked after much thought).


This is me and my mum at Daisy’s christening. I love this photo for so many reasons, the obvious one being the sheer joy and happiness and love we all share – three generations of smiles. But it also represents the beginning of so many things. A new relationship with my mum – one based on our love of my children, and her being needed once again, after years of being pushed away by an independent, cocky teenager and twenty-something. It represents the beginning of my life as a mum, an incredible journey that I am still only on the first tentative steps of. And finally, it represents the beginning of my writing career – this picture was included with my first ever published article called Mothers & Daughters (www.alanakirkgillham.com/Publishedarticles.html ) that began a new era for me and hopefully the stepping stones towards a lifetime of writing .

The future is impossible without the past, and often I have struggled with managing the two forceful elements of my life – the pre-children and post-children me…. and yet my mum has been the bridge between the two, keeping me sane and intact while while I often unravelled. Three generations of smiles are still smiling, and that makes me happier than pretty much anything else.

About Grin & Tonic by Alana Kirk

Bouncing into middle age armed with courage, ambition and a pair of tweezers (chin hairs for anyone over the age of 45 reading this) I am a writer with a mission: to redefine this midway point in my life when the last thing I want to do is hang up my high heels and become invisible. This is the end of the beginning, not the beginning of the end. A single mum to 3 fabulous girls, an author, and a fundraising consultant, both ends of my candle are on fire. As I enter this new stage of my life, I want to explore what it means for 'mid-aged' women today, who were promised they could have it all, ended up doing it all, and just do not identify with the traditional image of middle age.
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8 Responses to my favourite photo

  1. Awwwwww…that is so beautiful. You totally made me tear up. I love the photo too. You all do look amazingly full of love and happiness.

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  2. foodie mummy says:

    That's a lovely photo. Where would we be without our mums? I do believe that becoming a mother yourself brings you closer to your own mother. X

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  3. Caz says:

    What a lovely photo, it does seem to speak. Faces in different ages but all filled with happiness. Lovely.

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  4. Mummy mania says:

    thanks so much Caz …. of course on another day it could all be tears but isn't that the beauty of mothers and daughters?

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  5. That is a lovely photo and I too believe that having a baby brings you closer to your mum, puts a whole different perspective on your relationship.x

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  6. This post made me cry. It sums up the relationship I've had with my own Mum, through the angry teenager stage and the know it all twenty something. We've found a different relationship since I had Little Legs and now there's an overwhelming understanding between us. Your photo sums it all up perfectly x

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  7. neeser says:

    What a lovely picture. There is no doubt that Daisy was surrounded by love in that moment, and she felt it. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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  8. vegemitevix says:

    You know what, it made me cry too. Thank you so much for posting it. x

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